Why Most Of Us Struggle To Find The Right Person

Here are my thoughts on why it’s so hard finding a good relationship.

Life is a journey and people are complicated.  These two facts alone show you how complicated it is to navigate the maze of the modern dating scene. We’re not all looking for same thing and no two people are exactly alike. Personally I don’t buy into the notion that there’s a perfect someone out there for everyone. It’s just a case of finding the best person for who you are at that specific point in your life.

That’s the reason everyone gets lonely at some stage or the other. Trust me, every single girl out there has thought there’s something wrong with her for not being able to get the right guy and every guy wonders at some point – why does no girl want to date me? (Unless you’re George Clooney, in which case, go back to sunbathing on your yacht George, this article isn’t for you). But that’s okay.

Believe it or not, it’s normal to feel lonely every once in a while. When you’re young you still have a lot of time to learn a lot more about yourself.  Finding different relationships teaches more about who you really are and what makes you happiest.

The one thing you must accept is that you will have your heart broken, maybe a number of times. You will hang onto relationships longer than needed, say things that shouldn’t have been said and leave someone only to regret it later. Take your time, it’s never been easy for anyone.

But maybe our generation has it harder than any other that came before.  Our expectations have increased almost as much as our patience has decreased.  The instant gratification we tend to expect in all other parts of our life is beginning to transcend into our love lives as well.  The hook up culture glorifies a short lived and hyper sexual relationship with as little emotional commitment as possible.

As a generation we are too rick averse and tend to block out any chance of getting hurt whatsoever. If you’re not willing or not ready to put yourself out there and show your vulnerabilities, you’ll struggle to hold on to anyone for too long, let alone a lifetime.

The solution, in my opinion, is to be a little more willing to make compromises. People aren’t perfect and neither are you. Give them a chance more often, accept their flaws and work on your own. Beyond anything else you have to understand the value of the people who come into your life.

Not everyone is here to stay but when you find them, hold on tight. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not asking you to settle for less and stick it out in a hopeless relationship. Rather, I’m asking you to trust your gut when you meet new people and allow them space to make mistakes without overreacting and making hasty decisions. In the end you won’t live a life without regrets but hopefully you’ll be happier.

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